The past few weeks have taken me on a pretty sweet ride and I want to acknowledge that I’ve had some help along the way. Many people in this blogosphere and those peddling their soulful wares online have taken me someplace new. A place where I dared not tread before. The sweet smell of confidence is my perfume and I’m grateful to those who churn away day in and day out to bring forth their truths and share their lives and learnings. I’m tickled that I’ve come this far in such a short time. Only six months ago I was lost in despair, desperate to understand the meaning behind everything and completely attached to things out of my control. Now, I’m content, relaxed enough to enjoy the universe with all is subtleties, nuances and suprises.
Yet, I still yell at my kids. Why is this? They haven’t done anything wrong. I need a mantra to repeat when I’m losing my patience so they can be spared the confusion of someone they love flinging such nonsense at them. What I’m doing to them strips me bare. I’m aware, yet not able to command myself to breathe through it. I took six breaks this morning, at least, to separate myself from them. I know they are kids and kids don’t always listen. I know they respond better to whispers. I know they love me and I love them unconditionally. What they do isn’t the end of the world, but it has a disrespectful element that irks me to the point of ire. Logically, I know it will pass. I know they test me, that’s their job and they are good at it. I hate failing the test.
An affirmation brought me something wonderful. Perhaps a new one will bring me more patience with my children.
“I am a patient mother. I offer love and respect and receive it in return. Our home is a happy one.”
That should do it. I’ll let you know how I do.
March 3rd, 2008 at 11:48 pm
I only have couple of words “bounderies”, they need them. you need them, “consistency” they need it, you need to be it. “routines”, let’s them know in advance what will happen, makes it easier for you and them, if all fails give them a hug and love them as much as you can
March 4th, 2008 at 12:21 pm
Thanks Walter…the last part I can do, it’s the others I am in the process of creating.
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March 8th, 2008 at 8:33 pm
I will try to follow your example. It is always so much easier to yell/have an outburst/to put yourself right in the middle of the fray. But I like your affirmation idea…keep me posted on how it’s working!
March 17th, 2008 at 12:39 am
Thanks Susan, I’m glad I’m not the only one who peeks over the edge sometimes.